PODCAST EPISODE #216
Peace on Purpose — The Dr. Blass Podcast
Welcome back to Peace on Purpose, the Dr. Blass Podcast—the place where founders, CEOs, and legacy leaders come to fortify their mind, guard their mission, and build an empire that outlives them.
I’m Dr. Elsie Blass—Certified Holistic Life Coach, love coach, health psychologist, and the practitioner high-achievers call when their vision demands a stronger, sharper, and more unshakable mind.
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Episode Title:
Mapping Your Love Pattern Timeline™: The Neuroscience Behind Why You Choose Who You Choose
Who This Episode Is For
This episode is for the woman—or man—who keeps outgrowing their relationships but not their relationship patterns.
It’s for the high achiever whose business keeps leveling up while their love life keeps repeating old loops.
It’s for the person who feels, deep down, that their heart and their income are connected—and they’re finally ready to understand why.
Theme Introduction
All week we’ve been talking about the power of self-awareness and emotional wealth. Today, we’re going deeper. We’re walking into the unseen architecture of your relational history—the patterns, the timelines, the echoes of childhood that still steer your adult choices—until you consciously dismantle them.
Teaching Segment
The Love Pattern Timeline™
A timeline is not just a sequence of memories.
It is a neurological map—your brain’s predictive model for love, safety, desire, and attachment.
Every stage of your life leaves a blueprint:
Childhood teaches availability.
Middle school teaches belonging.
High school teaches desirability.
Adulthood teaches tolerance, boundaries, and whether you believe you deserve partnership or proximity.
Most people never decode their own timeline. That’s why they repeat it.
Today, I’m going to teach you how to build your own.
Step-by-Step: How to Create Your Love Pattern Timeline™ at Home
Grab a notebook, your iPad, or anything you can write or draw on.
STEP 1 — Divide your paper into four eras
Write these across the top:
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Childhood
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Middle School
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High School
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Adulthood
Leave room under each.
STEP 2 — Identify the key figures
Under each era, list any person who made an emotional imprint—crushes, partners, friends, caretakers, anyone who affected your sense of love or value.
STEP 3 — For each person, write these three categories
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What they gave you (attention, affection, confusion, secrecy, inconsistency).
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What they withheld (security, honesty, presence, validation).
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What you internalized (I’m too much, I’m not enough, I’m the caretaker, I have to earn love, I need to hide).
STEP 4 — Identify themes
Most timelines reveal at least one repeating theme:
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Emotional unavailability
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One-sided investing
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Being chosen in secret
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Being the caretaker or fixer
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Being hidden or minimized
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Feeling ashamed of identity, culture, or body
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Confusing chemistry with instability
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Repeating trauma bonds
STEP 5 — Name the neurological pattern
What prediction does your brain make about love?
Examples:
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“Love is inconsistent.”
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“I must earn affection.”
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“I attract emotionally unavailable partners.”
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“I’m drawn to people who keep me hidden.”
STEP 6 — Reflect on how this shows up in adulthood
Your adult love life replayed your earliest blueprint—unless you consciously interrupted it.
This is where the transformation begins.
Surgery Experience Segment: Mini Internal Reset
I want you to close your eyes for a moment.
Think of one repeating pattern that has followed you from childhood through adulthood.
Now ask yourself:
“Where was this pattern first modeled for me? And why did I normalize it as love?”
Take a breath.
Name the moment.
Name the person.
Name the lesson.
And now…
Tell your nervous system:
“That was then. This is now. I’m not repeating this pattern anymore.”
This is where freedom begins.
Boundary-Setting Reflection
Before we move on, write down the boundaries you need to create with yourself—not for others, but for your own unhealthy behaviors.
Examples:
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“I will no longer entertain someone who communicates inconsistently.”
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“I will not accept affection only in private.”
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“I refuse to negotiate my values for connection.”
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“I will not rescue or rehabilitate anyone again.”
These boundaries become the architecture of your healing.
Journaling Prompts
Use these during the episode:
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Which age on my timeline shaped my expectations of love the most, and why?
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Where do I still confuse intensity with intimacy?
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What was I trained to tolerate that I now refuse to carry into my future?
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Which relational pattern mirrors my financial ceiling?
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What would my life look like if my next season of love aligned with emotional safety instead of emotional memory?
Five Original Quotes for this Episode
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Your timeline doesn’t define you—it reveals the code you’re finally ready to rewrite.
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Patterns repeat until identity shifts.
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Your nervous system remembers what your mind tried to forget.
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Healing begins the moment you see the sequence, not just the story.
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The future you want can’t be built with the patterns you inherited.
Offer Invitation (Holiday Special)
If you’re listening to this and thinking,
“I need help decoding my patterns. I don’t want to enter 2026 carrying the same blueprint,”
I’ve opened a four-week Holiday Pattern Analysis Experience.
For $600, you get:
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4 weeks of coaching + therapeutic support
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Your full Love Pattern Timeline™ professionally decoded
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Identification of inherited patterns
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Emotional and behavioral rewiring steps
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A personalized map for your next season
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And support integrating real change
Closing
You are not bound to the blueprint you were born into.
You are free to build something new.
Peace is chosen—moment by moment, pattern by pattern, boundary by boundary.
This special is available only until Thanksgiving.
You can schedule your sessions in December, but you must secure your spot before Thanksgiving to receive the $600 rate.
DM me “HOLIDAY” and I’ll send the link.
Or contact me here: https://elsieblass.com/pages/contact